Kannada Weddings are a relatively simple but
joyful affair. It may be noted that there are different communities
in Karnataka and there are some differences in the wedding rituals
followed by each of them. Given here is a general description of a
typical wedding in Karnataka.
Pre-Wedding Rituals:
Some very interesting pre-wedding customs are followed in Kannada
wedding. Please read on to know more about them.
- Nischay Tamulam or Fixing of the
Alliance: Once the parents of the prospective bride
and the groom agree to the match, the alliance is formalized
with a plate of betel leaves and supari. The parents of the boy
go to the bride's home and give her a sari, blouse piece,
coconut and fruits. The girl's parents give the boy a dhoti,
coconut and fruits. A priest chants mantras. He also matches the
horoscopes of the boy and the girl to fix the date and time of
the wedding.
- Nandi: This ceremony is
performed a few days prior to he wedding to ensure that the
marriage takes place without any hitches/problems. There is a
puja with coconut, aarti and a kalash (copper pot). The first
invitation card is offered to God.
- Havan: On the day of
the marriage, a havan is performed in the respective houses of
the bride and the groom.
- Wedding Attire: In a
typical Kannada marriage ceremony, the bride wears Navari sari
and green glass bangles along with traditional gold jewelry. The
bridegroom wears a dhoti, angavastram and a pheta, a turban. In
his right hand he holds a stick which has been sanctified in a
holy place.
- Departure of the Groom's Party:
After bowing to the elders, gods, goddesses in the
house and taking their blessings, the groom with his wedding
party proceeds towards the wedding venue.
- Welcoming of the Barat: When
the groom and his party reach the wedding venue, the sumangalis
or married women from the girl's side perform an arti. Then
these sumangalis lead the bridegroom inside the marriage hall.
- Kaashi Yatre: This is a
playful ritual with the groom pretending to get angry as nobody
is searching for a bride for him and threatens to go to Kashi on
a pilgrimage. He carries a walking stick, an umbrella, a fan, a
coconut, a small packet of rice and dal, and a dhoti. This is
when his maternal uncle convinces him and puts forth him the
girl that he has chosen for him or would offer his daughter's
hand for marriage.
Wedding Rituals:
Given here is a short description of the significant rituals of the
Kannada wedding.
- Mandap Puja: On the day
of marriage the first ritual that is performed is the Mandap
Puja. This is to make the mandap or the hall in which the
marriage is to take place, appropriate for an event as sacred as
a marriage. The bride's father brings the groom to the mandap
and is worshipped in a ceremony called the Var Puja. The bride's
parents honour him by washing his feet and offer him a silk
dhoti and pitambar, which are to be worn by him.
- Jaimala or the Garlanding
Ceremony: In the Kannada wedding, the bride is
escorted to the mandap by her uncles. An interesting custom
followed is that no one is supposed to see the bride's face. Her
sister shields her face with a fan of peacock feathers. The
bride and groom stand on the either side of a white cloth, which
separates them. For the recitation of the marriage mantras
(Mangalashtam), the bride and the groom take standing positions.
The cloth is removed, and the bride and groom garland each
other amidst the chanting of mantras.
- Dhare Herdu or the Giving Away of
the Bride: In Dhare Herdu, the bride's father gives
away the bride to the groom. He takes the groom's hand and
places it on the bride's hand. The moment when the bride is "handed"
over to the groom, her father ceremonially pours water into the
groom's hands (called dhara), signifying that she is now his.
Corn/rice is then put into the havan five times, before the 7
pheras or the saptapadi begins.
- Saptapadi: The groom's
angavastram and the bride's pallav is tied with a nuptial knot.
The bride follows the groom's footsteps seven times around the
holy fire (saptapadi). Five married women tie the mangalsutra or
the holy thread while the bridegroom holds it around the neck of
the bride. The couple then bows before the elders, and visits
the temple for blessings.
Post-Wedding Rituals:
Post - wedding rituals of a traditional Kannada Wedding are quite
simple and include the following:
- Vidaai: Vidai ceremony
marks the tearful farewell of the bride from her paternal home
for her husband's house. The parents of the bride gift her an
umbrella, vessels, cot etc. to help her set up her new home. In
Kannada wedding, the bride is accompanied by her brother who
stays at the groom's house for the night and returns home the
next day.
- Graha Pravesh: Welcome
of the bride into her new home is called Graha Pravesh. The
bride kicks a kalash full of rice with her right foot kept at
the threshold of the house. This is followed by the name change
ceremony. Here the groom decides a name for his bride he
inscribes with a ring on a plate containing rice. On the second
day the bride's family comes to take the newly wedded bride and
the groom to their house. The couple stays at the bride's place
for a few days. Later, the groom's family goes over to his
in-laws place to fetch the bride and the groom.