Among the many regional communities living
in India, Maharashtrians perhaps have the simplest and least opulent
marriage ceremony. The process begins with match making called
Lagnaach Bedi. Though these days love marriages are quite common,
many boys and girls still prefer to go in for marriages arranged by
parents. Typically, Maharshtrians go in for marriage alliance
between equal status families. However, the marriage alliance is
finalized only after matching of the horoscopes by family pundit.
Following this, the pundit decides the auspicious date for the
wedding.
Pre-Wedding Rituals:
A number of colorful and interesting pre-wedding rituals take place
in a Maharashtrian wedding. Given here is the brief description of
the same.
- Sakhar Puda: Sakharpuda
is essentially an engagement ceremony that takes place a few
days before the wedding. For this ceremony, the groom's parents
give the bride a saree as a token of her acceptance in their
family. Her arms are adorned with green glass bangles,
symbolizing her engagement. She is then given a packet of sakhar
puda (sugar) which symbolizes the spreading of sweetness in
their lives. Invitation cards are traditionally printed after
this ceremony.
- Kelvan: A couple of
days before the wedding, a feast called Kelvan is organized in
both the bride's as well as the bridegroom's home for the entire
family gathered in that home. A puja of the Kuladevta or the
family deity also takes place the evening before the wedding.
- Haldi: Haldi is yet
another custom special to Maharashtrians. The bridegroom and the
bride have their own celebrations in their respective homes.
Women from each family get together to apply a mixture of
turmeric, sandalwood and cream to the face and body of the
bridegroom or the bride. The prospective bride and the groom
then take a ceremonial bath in their respective homes and are
not allowed to go out of the home after this ceremony.
- Chuda: Chuda is a
ceremony for the bride and her women friends to share the fun of
wearing green bangles. Green glass bangles are considered
auspicious because green is the color of new life, creativity
and rejuvenation. A bangle man is invited to the home and each
woman chooses her own, amidst songs, laughter and jokes. The
bride is given the green glass bangles ceremonially and with her
mother's help, she wears them interspersed with gold, pearl or
diamond bangles as per the status of the family. The bride can
remove the chuda only a month after the wedding. Married women
wear such chudas on all festive or religious occasions.
Wedding Rituals:
The actual marriage ceremony begins with a muhurta patra set up to
measure the time before the auspicious moment of the marriage. Drop
by drop, the water falling down counts the seconds while the bride,
ready and dressed in a yellow or green sari and a half moon painted
on her forehead for luck, worships Parvati, the goddess of marital
bliss in an anteroom till she is summoned to the dais.
- Marriage Ceremony: At
long last, the swastik-marked antarpat, (white cloth) is held up
between the couple. The bride is brought to the dais by her mama
or maternal uncle and the mangalashtakas (eight blessings) are
recited. When the recitation is over, the cloth is removed
amidst a crescendo of shehnais and the bride and groom exchange
garlands called varmalas. This is also the 'darshan' of a bride
and groom for the first time as man and wife. At the time of
removing the Antarpaat the people present shower the couple with
Akshata (unbroken rice). It is essential that the grains be
whole, as they are symbolic of the blessing from those present.
The couple garlands each other. Like most Hindu marriages seven
rounds around the havan are called Saptapadi.
- Laxmi Narayan Puja: One
of the most important events after the marriage is Laxmi Narayan
Puja. The bride and the bridegroom are considered to be Goddess
Laxmi and Lord Narayan respectively and worshipped. After this
ceremony the bride is formally handed over by her parents to the
bridegroom in a ceremony called kanyadaan.
Post-Wedding Rituals:
Some very interesting post-wedding rituals of a Maharashtrian
Wedding are:
- Suun Mukh Baghne: In
Indian society, the bride not only marries a man but also
becomes an inherent part of his family. Her initiation into the
new family is done by her mother-in-law. The bridegroom's mother
looks (baghne) at her daughter-in-law's (sunn) face (mukh). The
mother-in-law takes both her son and her daughter-in-law in her
lap. Later she looks at her daughter-in-law's face in the
mirror. She also combs her hair. Probably a throw back to the
days when the bride and the groom were mere children this ritual
still retains the feeling of a mother-daughter relationship that
it conjures.
- Changing her Name: It
was a practice to change the name of the girl after marriage in
Maharashtrian Brahmin families. This ceremony takes place at the
boy's house. After inscribing the Om Ganeshay Nama and the
kuldevta's name the bridegroom traces the name of his wife in a
plate full of rice.
- Reception: Reception as
usual takes place on the night of marriage. Generally, lunch is
arranged in the afternoon. A peculiarity of the lunch is that
not all the people sit together to eat. Initially, the
bridegroom's family members are made to have lunch. The couple
takes rounds of the mandap where the guests are having lunch,
serving sweets and making sure that everyone eats well. Then the
bride's family is asked to go ahead. In the end, the couple and
their parents have lunch together.