Malayalee Wedding is a simple and joyful
affair. Participation of friends and relatives in the various
rituals adds even more joy to the celebrations.
Pre-Wedding Rituals:
Here is a short and simple description to the various pre-wedding
customs of a Malayalee wedding.
- Muhurtham: A
traditional Malyalee Wedding is initiated with exchanging and
matching of horoscopes by the parents of the prospective bride
and the groom. Muhurtham or the auspicious date for wedding is
then finalized in consultation with the astrologers.
- Nischayam or Engagement: Nischayam
or the engagement ceremony as it is popularly called is the
fixed by the elders to announce the wedding day to their family
and friends. The prospective bride and the groom are not present
on this occasion.
- Traditional Feast: As a
part of the tradition, the day before the wedding, a customary
dinner is served at the bride's residence. The bride is seated
facing the east and has a traditional five-course vegetarian
meal with her family.
Wedding Rituals:
Rituals of a Malayalee Wedding are quite similar to what is seen in
other Hindu weddings. However, there are some marked regional
differences, which makes it even more interesting.
- Madhuparkam: The actual
Malayalee Wedding is brief and does not have any religious
compulsions. The bride may wear the traditional two piece sari
called Mundu, or any other sari of her choice. She is adorned
with flowers and jewelry. The bridegroom clad in a dhoti and
angavastram arrives at the bride's ancestral home, where the
marriage ceremony takes place in a northwestern room. The
bride's father washes the groom's feet and welcomes him. The
groom then gives him the off white sari that has to be worn by
the bride for the nuptials.
- Veli: The Veli or the
nuptial ceremony is performed around the agni or fire just as in
other Hindu weddings. In a Malayalee Wedding, the bride and the
groom circle the sacred fire thrice, after which the groom ties
the 'Taali', which is strung on a yellow thread around the neck
of the bride. Thereafter, the bride's father gives her hand to
the groom in a ceremony called Kanyadaanam or Penkoda.
- Sparsham: After the
Kanyadaanam, Sparsham takes place. The unique tradition
symbolizes the meeting of minds. Carrying out the age-old
custom, the groom sits in front of the bride and tilts his head
backwards, to touch her forehead. After this the girl offers
Laja (puffed rice) to the fire to the chant of various mantras.
Her palms are placed in her husband's hands and she performs the
homan. After this, the groom lifts the bride's foot and places
it on the Ammi (grinding stone) signifying breaking of ties from
her old family. The groom then moves the bride's foot forward
seven times with his hand symbolizing her entry into his family.
Post-Wedding Rituals:
Given here is a short description to some typical post-wedding
customs of a Malayalee Wedding.
- Grihapravesh: Immediately
after the wedding, an elaborate meal is served. It consists of
various vegetarian dishes. After this the couple leave for the
groom's house, preceded by lamps in what is called Kudivep. The
bride is then welcomed to the groom's house in a ceremony called
Grihpravesh.