Traditional Sikh Marriage is known as Anand
Karaj which means 'Blissful Union". Sikh weddings take place
during the day. It is joyous and festive event which is very family
orientated and informal in its atmosphere.
Pre-Wedding Rituals:
A number of interesting and colorful rituals mark the traditional
Sikh Wedding ceremony.
- Kurmai or Engagement: An
engagement ceremony or kurmai is not mandatory in a Sikh wedding
but is sometimes performed one week before the wedding. It is
usually conducted in the Gurdwara or at the home of the boy.
Kurmai involves Ardas (the common Sikh prayer), Kirtan (hymns
from Sri Guru Granth Sahib) and langer (community meal) if
performed in the Gurdwara. If performed at home, the bride's
family visits the house of the groom and present kara, kirpan or
traditional sweets besides auspicious items like coconut,
chhuhare (dry dates), sugar and money. They brides family in
turn are presented with a traditional suit and sweets for the
girl.
- Maiya: A custom common
to Sikh wedding ceremony is maiya. It requires confinement of
the bride and groom for a few days before the marriage, where
they are not allowed to leave their homes or change their
clothes.
- Gana: An auspicious red
thread is tied to the right wrist of the groom and the left
wrist of the bride. Auspicious items such as cowrie shells, an
iron key chain, pearls and a small silken bundle containing
sugar are suspended from the gana worn by the bride.
- Vatna and Mehndi: A
couple of days prior to the wedding, vatna, which is essentially
a scented powder consisting of barley flour, turmeric and
mustard oil is applied to the bodies of the bride and groom in
their respective homes. This is to be followed by a ritual bath.
Then on the eve of the wedding, called mehndi ki raat, henna is
applied on the hands and feet of the bride.
- Gharoli: The morning of
the wedding is marked by the gharoli ceremony at the groom's
house. In this, the groom's sister-in law accompanied by other
female relatives go to a nearby well or Gurudwara to fill a
decorated earthen pitcher or gharoli with water which is later
used to bath the bridegroom.
- Khare Charna: In this
ceremony, the groom is made to sit on a stool for his bath and
four girls hold a cloth over his head.
- Chooda Ceremony: Bride's
maternal uncle or mama takes her for the choora ceremony. She is
made to wear a set of red and white ivory (since ivory is
banned, bone or plastic are alternative) bangles that have been
dipped in kachchi lassi or buttermilk. Kaleeren or golden metal
danglers are tied to the bride's wrist by her close female
relatives. The bride now dresses up for the main ceremony.
- Ghodhi Chadhna and Milni Ceremony:
At the groom's house, a sehera or ceremonial floral
veil is tied to the boy's forehead by his sisters. Close
relatives adorn the groom's neck with garlands of currency
notes. The bridegroom mounts a decorated mare while his
sisters-in -law put collyrium in his eyes.
On reaching the bride's house the milni ceremony is held with
the seniors of both families embracing each other. Shabads are
sung and the ardaas recited as the procession enters the
Gurudwara. Breakfast is served to the guests.
Wedding Rituals:
A noticeable feature of the Sikh wedding is that is takes place in
the Gurdwara. Besides, only four pheras take place in a Sikh
wedding.
- Lawan Phere: Here in,
the bride and the groom sit together and attend the Sri Guru
Granth Sahib Kirtan. The bhaiji of the Gurudwara recites the
first lavan or hymns from the Guru Granth Sahib, which are then
sung and the bride and groom circle the Guru Granth Sahib. The
bridegroom walks ahead of the bride with a sword in his hand.
When one round is over, both take their seats, bow and wait for
the second lavan to start. During the fourth and final lavan,
flowers are showered on the newly wedded couple. The hidaayat or
niyams that is their duties and responsibilities towards each
other as man and wife and also towards their elders is recited
to them. Relatives and friends garland the newly wedded couple
and the marriage ceremony concludes with a grand feast.
Post -Wedding Rituals:
Given here is a brief description of post wedding rituals of a Sikh
Wedding.
- Doli: The bride changes
into new clothes that are presented to her by the groom's
family. As she parts from her parent's house she throws back
grains of rice. This gesture symbolizes her wishes of prosperity
for the family she leaves behind.