Muslim Wedding or Nikah is celebrated on a
grand scale for a period of five-days. Muslim wedding can be
conducted at any convenient time, as there is no concept of
auspicious time. The Nikah ceremony can take place either at the
bride or bridegroom's residence or at a place that is convenient for
both parties. Just as in any other Indian wedding, here too marriage
ceremonies can be divided into pre-wedding, wedding and post-wedding
celebrations.
Pre-Wedding Rituals:
Here is a short description of the pre-wedding rituals followed in
a typical Muslim Nikah.
- Legan Chir: When the
date of marriage is finalized, cash present is sent to the
bride's father by the groom's father. The ceremony is known as
Legan Chir.
- Day 1 and Day 2 Ceremonies:
On days one and two, first the bride's people and
then the groom's, go to the other party's house, carrying
mehendi paste in a plate. The children carry candles, which are
lit before entering the respective houses. Dinner is served and
songs teasing both the boy and girl are sung.
- Manjha Ceremony: On the
third day, manjha ceremony takes place. The prospective bride is
seated on a small square table and anointed with haldi
(turmeric) provided by the boy's family. Following this
ceremony, a married friend will accompany the bride everywhere
and at all times. This friend will also spread the turmeric over
the bride's whole body before she bathes. For this ceremony the
bride is supposed to wear yellow clothes and no jewelry. There
is, again, much celebration and singing.
- Mehndi Ceremony: The
Mehndi ceremony is held at the home of the bride on the eve of
the wedding ceremony or a couple of days before it. Following
the tradition, the female relatives of the bride anoint her with
turmeric paste to bring out the glow in her complexion. A
relative or a mehndiwali applies mehndi on the hands and feet of
the bride. The event has a festive feel to it with the women
singing traditional songs. The bride wears sober clothes on the
day. According to custom the bride must not step out of the
house for the next few days until her marriage. The bride's
cousins sometimes apply a dot of mehndi on the palm of the
groom.
Wedding Rituals:
Muslims observe a unique set of rituals at the time of their
wedding. Please read on to find out how Muslim Nikah is conducted.
- Welcoming the Baraat: The
groom arrives at the wedding venue with a wedding procession or
baraat consisting of relatives and friends. A band of musicians
strike up some traditional notes to announce their arrival. The
groom shares a drink of sherbet with the bride's brother. The
bride's sisters play pranks and slap the guests playfully with
batons made of flowers.
- Nikaah: It is on day
four the actual Muslim Nikaah or wedding ceremony takes place.
Nikah can be conducted at the home of the bride or the groom, or
at any other convenient venue. The nikaah ceremony is presided
over by the qazi or law officer. The qazi appoints two men as
witnesses (Gawah) on the groom's behalf, to receive orders for
the nikah from the bride's family. In addition to the presence
of two witnesses, the presence of the two 'Walis' (the bride's
and the bridegroom's father) is also necessary. The bride's
father is required to care for and protect her rights and the
groom's father to endorse his rights.
In orthodox Muslim communities, the men and women are seated
separately in Zenana (for woman) and Mardaana (for men). The
Maulvi reads selected verses from the Quran and the Nikaah is
complete after the Ijab-e-Qubul (proposal and acceptance). The
validity of the Nikaah depends on proposal on one side, usually
the groom's (Ijab) and acceptance on the other side, the bride's
(Qubul). The mutual consent of the bride and groom is of great
importance for the marriage to be legal. Besides, the Islam
marriage law demands that neither of the parties must be legally
incapacitated from entering into the marriage.
On the day of the Nikaah the elder members of the two families
decide the amount of Mehar (nuptial gift). In Muslim Nikah,
Mehar is a compulsory amount of money given by the groom's
family to the bride. The qazi personally asks the bride if she
has agreed to marry the groom and whether she accepts the
quantum of mehar. Once the bride gives her consent the qazi
reads the marriage contract to the groom. After the groom gives
his consent, the Nikaah-Nama or marriage contract must be signed
by the bride, the bridegroom, their Walis, the witnesses and the
Qazi. The Nikaah-Nama also contains certain terms and
conditions, which are in accordance with the religion and
agreeable to both parties. A noteworthy condition is that in
case of a disagreement between the two partners, the girl has a
right to divorce her husband.
After the Nikaah-Nama is signed, the Qazi delivers a sermon
called Khutba, consisting of verses from the Quran which were
recited by the prophet and which lay particular emphasis on
obligations toward women. The Qazi explains the meaning of these
verses to the audience with an explanation of the mutual rights
and duties of the spouses.
- Blessing the Groom: After
the wedding ceremonies are over the groom receives blessings
from the older women and offers them his salaam. The guests pray
for the marital bliss of the newly wed couple.
- Dinner, Prayers and Aarsimashaf:
Dinner is a lavish spread. Usually, the women and the
men dine separately. After dinner, the newly-weds sits together
for the first time. Their heads are covered by a dupatta while
they read prayers under the direction of the maulvi (priest).
The Quran is placed between the couple and they are allowed to
see each only through mirrors.
Post-Wedding Rituals:
Post-Wedding rituals followed in Muslim Nikah are similar to what
we see in other Indian weddings. However, here the customs are
followed under different names and some cultural variations can be
observed.
- Ruksat: The bride's
family bids her a tearful farewell before she departs for her
husband's house. The bride's father gives her hand to her
husband and tells him to take protect and take good care of her.
- Welcoming the Bride: At
the groom's house, the groom's mother holds the Islamic Holy
book Quran above the head of her newly wed daughter-in-law as
she enters her new home for the first time.
- Chauthi: The Chauthi is
the fourth day after the wedding. It is customary for the bride
to visit the home of her parents on this day. The bride receives
a joyous welcome on this day.
- Valimah: The Valimah is
the lavish reception that the groom's family hosts after the
Nikaah. It is a joyous occasion that brings together the two
families, their relatives and friends.