Telegu Wedding is an elaborate affair and
comprises of a large number of rituals and ceremonies that spread
over several days. It may be noted that there may be certain
regional and caste variations regarding ceremonies related to Telegu
wedding ceremony. However, what remains essentially the same is the
highest regard of Telegu people for the institution of marriage.
Pre-Wedding Rituals:
Here is a short description of some of the popular pre-wedding
rituals of a Telegu marriage ceremony.
- Muhurtam: Muhurtam
means determining the auspicious part of the day for the
marriage. The period that is considered auspicious starts from
7.00 p.m. and goes on till the next day until about 11 am.
Telegu Weddings don't usually take place in the months of
Aashad, Bhadrapad and Shunya as these months are considered not
auspicious.
- Pendlikoothuru: This
ceremony involves anointing the bride and the groom with oil and
turmeric before bath. Following the bath, the couple don new
clothes. The bride-to-be wears flowers in her hair. She also
adorns her forehead with a bindi or vermilion dot and wears
bangles on her wrists.
- Snathakam: Snathakam
ceremony is performed at the bridegroom's house before the
muhurtam. It is a sort of thread ceremony that involves making
the groom wear a silver thread on his body.
- Kashi Yatra: This is an
extremely joyful ceremony. Following the tradition, after the
recitation of Vedic verses, the groom pretends to leave for
Kashi, a pilgrimage center to become an ascetic. He carries a
walking stick and other essentials to show that he is not
interested in becoming a householder anymore. He relents and
agrees to the marriage only after he is stopped and persuaded by
the bride's brother to fulfill his responsibilities as a
householder.
- Mangala Snaanam: Following
the custom, the bride and groom must take a Mangala Snaanam or
an auspicious bath on the day of the wedding. The bath is
believed to cleanse and purify them and make them ready for the
sacred rites that are to follow.
- Aarti: After the
ceremonial bath, the bride and groom are anointed with oil at
their respective homes. Their families perform aarti. The
ceremony is significant as it carries with it the family's
prayer that the mind of the bride/groom be illuminated by
wisdom.
- Ganesh and Gauri Pooja: The
bridegroom performs Ganesh pooja in the mandapam or wedding hall
just before the marriage ceremony. Worshipping the revered
Ganesha who is the remover of all obstacles. Similarly, the
bride performs Gauri Puja and seeks blessings for a blissful
married life.
Wedding Rituals:
A typical Telegu Wedding is full of joyous and colorful rituals.
Please read on to know more about Telegu Wedding traditions.
- Kanyadaan: A
significant part of Hindu weddings, the Kanayadaan is that part
of the marriage ceremony in which the girl's family gives her
away to the groom. In a traditional Telegu wedding, bride's
maternal uncle carries her in a bamboo basket to the mandapam
where a curtain separates the bride and bridegroom. They are not
to see each other until after the marriage ceremony. The priest
invokes the blessings of the ancestors belonging to the last
seven generations of both families. The bride's parents wash the
groom's feet in a gesture that symbolizes their belief that he
is a form of God to whom they now offer their daughter's hand.
- Jeelakarra Bellamu: After
the priest recites the wedding shlokas from the Vedas, the bride
and groom apply a paste of cumin seeds (jeera) and jaggery on
each other's hands. This is known as Jeelakarra-Bellamu. This
slightly bitter cumin and sweet jaggery when ground together
turn into an inseparable mixture. The custom signifies that
bride and groom are supposed to become inseparable through
life's bitter and sweet times.
- Madhuparkam: For the
Madhuparkam ceremony the bride wears a white cotton sari with a
red border, while the groom dons a white cotton dhoti with a red
border. White signifies purity and chastity, while red color
represents strength.
- Sumangli: Under this
ceremony, ten married women (Sumangalis) accompany the bride.
Six of them hold plates full of rice and turmeric powder mixed
together. The remaining hold plates with small lamps made from a
mixture of rice flour, sugar and milk. Rice signifies abundance
while lit lamps represent sweetness and light, two qualities
that the bride brings with her to this new phase of life.
- Tying of the Mangalsutra: To
carry out this ritual, the curtain between the bride and the
groom is removed. After offering prayers, the groom ties the two
strings each with a golden disc representing the Mangalsutra
separately around the bride's neck with three knots to represent
the strength of their union physical, mental and spiritual.
- Kanyadaan Akshata: After
the mangalsutra ceremony, the couple exchange garlands. Those
present at the wedding shower their blessings on the couple by
sprinkling flowers and turmeric-colored rice or Akshat on them.
- Saptapadi: 'Saptapadi'
or seven steps are what the couple takes together. In this
ceremony the bride's saree and the groom's dhoti are tied
together at one end in a knot. In each step that he takes, the
groom prays for life-long blessings. During this ceremony,
saris, ornaments and other gifts are offered to the couple and
to other family members.
- Sthaalipaakam: In this
sweet ceremony, the groom slips silver toe rings on the bride's
feet. The girl is also adorned with a string of black beads, to
protect her from the evil eye.
Post-Wedding Rituals:
Given here is a short description of some prominent post-wedding
rituals of a traditional Telegu Wedding.
- Grihapravesh: When the
marriage ceremony is over the bride is ceremonially taken to the
groom's home for Griha Pravesh (entering the house for the first
time). Here, the in-laws give the bride a warm welcome.
- Uniting the Mangalsutra: As
is customary in a Telegu wedding, the two mangalsutras are
united on a common thread 16 days after the wedding. An elder
member of the family or the husband himself can unite the two
mangalsutras on a common thread. A few black or golden beads are
slipped between the two plates so that they don't clash with
each other. Signifying harmony between the two families. The
bride takes a bath and wears a new sari before wearing the
mangalsutra on this day. 16 days are symbolic of the time needed
by the bride to understand her husband's family.